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Detail image of the Carlton Fredericks Nutrition: Your Key to Good Health Venus

Well I really have to go to the Antique Fair….but there are only 18 hours left to go on my Indiegogo Campaign to collect funds to buy more ad space for my anti-diet “Send Me Your Diet Books” ads. So far they have rendered one diet book, and one love letter with a diet attached. Sob…I think it’s such a new concept that readers did not know what to do with it. The Women who sent me her diet book is going to get a Cover Girl Doll made from the book she sent…just for being brilliant and being the first to respond. The Love Letter Guy just made me want to cry. I will scan and post when I have more time. It’s amazing when you say…I’m sick and tired and I’m not going to take it any more…that someone thinks that more is the answer.

Enough!!! I need restaurant spikes for my Cover Girls!

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My Response to Why I Don’t Diet – An Ode to My Father

Why I Don’t Diet – An Ode to My Father.

This says so  much to me, I’m teary just reading it.  Of course this is not my experience and even though both sets of my Parents, (yes I was adoption and had two mothers and two fathers) Everyone of them had food issues and would diet…When I found my birth mother’s food journals I saw that we dieted the exact same way even though I had not been with her since the age of six.  Our numbers and diets always started in at around the same weight, 175 lbs was the weight we had both decided was unacceptable and our fasting would begin.

Some days when I’m feeling weak and down I wish to be that number again, but it’s been years since I was that slender.  Yes you read correctly 175 was “Slender.”  Now at 290 pounds for the most part I accept myself where I am.  FAT, Obese?  Morbidly Obese? to some…This is where 40 years of dieting got me.

Someone once said to me that I was the kind of person they would want to have in their cave.  And who knows…perhaps my ability to fast and binge would have helped in prehistoric times.  But that is not going to send me out to follow the Paleo Diet now…or what ever BS they are selling ( thin trend du jour )  My disordered eating gave me years of crazy eating rules to undo in my head about foods…perfectly delicious and nutritious fruits and vegetables became intolerable.

This is who I am today and I strive to be healthy at this size, and move joyfully… (sadly even movement has been effected by my dieting and disordered body image history.)  I cry in yoga class because my body remembers how flexible it was years ago when all I did in a day was run from karate, dance, spinning, yoga, weight training….But I couldn’t live like that…I am more then just my body, I am more then my physical appearance.  I have things to say and places to go and things to create.  Focusing on my exterior 24/7 was not enough.  So I put that aside.  I wear clothes that feel good, sizes that fit, I may not look like I did when I was dieting and eating disordered but for the most part my thinking is clear, I am doing something with my life and I have family and friends who love and support me in the here and now.

This is not an easy journey, but I fight everyday so that my son and other people’s children will not have to deal with the body image issues and negative physical side effects that dieting and diet culture has created in our current world.

Everyone is so concerned that we are fatter then we ever were before, and that this is effecting our health and the health of our children.  Frankly I think doctors and the government are looking at the wrong source of this “Epidemic”

DIETING IS THE CAUSE OF THE OBESITY CRISIS ( if there is even such a thing )….

DIETING IS DISORDERED EATING

DIETING MAKES YOU FAT

DO NOT DIET!!!

Love and respect yourself as you are….move joyfully and eat yummy food without judgments like “this a good choice” or “this a bad choice”  If you like pineapple eat it….if you like potatoes eat it….eating things because you think they will make you thin or healthy strips the food of the pleasure and often destroys it’s nutritional value.  ( especially when you can no longer even put it in your mouth, because just the smell of it sends you back to the time that was all you ate. )

Sorry for the rant and tears, I was supposed to be antiquing today having fun and I find myself here blogging.  I’m not even going to reread what I wrote….I just had to get it out.

Thank you Tiffany for your Post it really triggered something in me this morning.

My Son was hurt yesterday when a relative saw a picture of me back when “I was sick” as he likes to say.  She commented on how good I looked and it made him angry.  He knows how hard I work to be who I am today, and I had to admit that yes I did look lovely then, but I didn’t feel lovely…I felt crazy, and I might have well been the weight I am now for all I knew.  I thought I was….Man Mountain Dean as my adopted mother used to call me.  A little girl probably no more then 12 or 14 who had not even reached that 175 pound mark yet on the scale was “MAD Mountain Dean” as I thought she was calling me….it was only after getting involved with fat activism did I google him and find out his real name… a wrestler from the 1930′s did I realize what his real name was.

Yes I am a fighter, and yes I am fat, I don’t diet any more and I will fight to my death against this way of life which is destructive and a construct to weaken women and to get them to shut their mouths…both physically, behaviorally, and physiologically.  I’m hungry and I’m big and I’m loud and I’m proud!  Delicate little Flower??? I eat those on my salads!!!

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Some Beautiful Press About My Indiegogo Campaign!!!

The Willendorf Project: Brenda Oelbaum Goes National with the Goddess at Her Back

Lynne Murray says:

In August of 2010, I posted here about feminist artist Brenda Oelbaum’s work turning diet books into papier mâché models of the Venus of Willendorf.

Postcard Image by Daphne Doerr

Now Brenda is bringing her vision to the larger stage with “a national ad campaign to take down $66 BILLION Diet Industry.” She calls her project “DUMP THE DIETS! a Fight for Freedom from self-loathing.”

Venuses Left to Right: Fonda, Last Chance, Scarsdale, Stop the Insanity, Simmons

As Brenda puts it:

Think about how many diet ads you see on a daily basis, and see for yourself how much the diet industry is really spending on making you feel bad about yourself.

It’s time to invest in some positive messages!

We are tired of measuring our worth on a bathroom scale! We are not a number and neither are our children. We are beautiful and can be healthy at our current size.

We are all unique and valuable.

NOT EVERY DIET BECOMES AN EATING DISORDER,

BUT EVERY EATING DISORDER BEGINS WITH A DIET!

Brenda plans to post her message by purchasing ads in national publications right beside the ads and articles with product placement to sell the diets.

She can’t do it on her own, of course, one artist versus a billion dollar propaganda machine is too much of an unequal contest. But Brenda is now mobilizing crowdsourcing to help fund her Dump the Diet ads where the general public can see them. She reports:

I have already placed ads in several magazines that will appear the first two weeks on May in honor of “No Diet Day,” May 6th. Now I need you to turn this grass roots effort into a movement.

Part of what resonates with me and many others about Brenda’s work is her brilliant use of the physical substance– the paper that composes diet books–to build a mental structure to help us heal the deep hole diet books have carved in our souls.

My wounds from years of diet go so deep and are so constantly vulnerable to re-infection that they need to heal from the inside, one layer of healthy tissue at a time, in a process remarkably similar to ripping out the pages of the diet book and pasting them onto a paper-mâché sculpture.

The cult surrounding diet books, ads and programs builds its strength upon the American dream of changing oneself through hard work. The desire for success via self-improvement strikes such a chord in our national consciousness that it can be easily echoed and then evoked to twist personal goals into impossible dreams of magical physical transformation.

But no matter how much money we spend chasing the dream, change can only work if it is based on actual possibility. Dieting does change our bodies, but not the way we wish and dream for. Instead the result is the opposite! Weight cycling and eating disorders are the predictable and proven results for the vast majority of those who follow any and every diet plan. Ragen at Dances with Fat defines it well:

[L]et’s talk about what “dieting” means (so that we can avoid the “It’s not a diet, it’s a lifestyle change!” discussion.)  Dieting occurs when someone gives their body less food than it needs to survive in the hope that it will eat itself, thereby becoming smaller.  Call it a diet, call it a lifestyle change, if you are starving your body hoping that it will eat itself resulting in intentional weight loss, congratulations you are on a diet.  (You are completely and totally allowed to diet, I’m just saying let’s call it what it is.)

Turning a fat person into a permanently thin person is essentially impossible, which makes it the perfect scam for the con artist–a gold mine. Once the hook is set, the infinitely exploitable sucker will buy variations on one useless diet or another for decades if not for the rest of her/his lifetime. Those who engage in this Long Conhave sold billions of copies of such “Create Your Own Eating Disorder” books, not to mention all the diet-oriented paraphernalia that accompany them.

Brenda’s use of the Venus of Willendorf as the sculpture made from diet books strikes at the very heart of fear and prejudice toward larger bodies. These statues once represented goddesses–abundance, fertility and largesse. Now they are objects of ridicule. And by extension, those of us whose bodies resemble the goddess have also become targets for abuse, commands that we starve ourselves (seriously, “just stop eating” is a popular insult often yelled at fat women), and sometimes even violence.

One of the beautiful subtexts and ironies in Brenda’s work is using the pages of diet books to create a fat figure, just as the dieting process itself is now proven to stimulate long-term weight gain–creating a fat or fatter figure.

Brenda’s work shows bravery worthy of a goddess–I adore the picture of her, resolute, nude, surrounded by towering walls of diet books. Passionate, committed individuals banding together can have a profound effect.

The Willendorf Project is a wise investment toward growing a wiser future.

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5 Responses to “The Willendorf Project: Brenda Oelbaum Goes National with the Goddess at Her Back”

  1. Livre d’Or Says: 
    May 6th, 2013 at 7:10 pm

    Thank you for posting about Oelbaum’s Willendorf project and your own response to it. I like the idea, but I am afraid to say I have some quibbles. I realized as I was drafting my comment that it was more like a response post than a comment, especially as I’m just a random lurker.

    If you are interested in a critique from what I hope is a size-accepting and feminist perspective, here is a manual pingback:http://liv.dreamwidth.org/401033.html

  2. Debbie Says: 
    May 6th, 2013 at 8:50 pm

    Readers of the blog may want to know that I answered Livre d’Or in their own thread: http://liv.dreamwidth.org/401033.html?thread=4839817#cmt4839817

  3. Lynne Murray Says: 
    May 7th, 2013 at 12:00 am

    I’m new to Dreamwidth, but I think this is the link to my answer on the same thread
    http://liv.dreamwidth.org/401033.html?thread=4840841#cmt4840841

  4. Brenda Oelbaum Says: 
    May 7th, 2013 at 2:54 pm

    Thank you so much for all your comments, there is no doubt that what I’m doing is flawed in some ways…just like there is always a nugget of real and maybe valuable information in the books I destroy. But something something has to be done! And I am grateful and proud of my efforts and all the other Fat Activist Artists and Bloggers. If I touch one other person with my art then I have done a great thing.

    Thanks so much for spreading the word and writing such a wonderful piece about my project! I know there are people all over the world receiving your mailing and it just helps get these size positive HAES messages out into the universe faster and further…Warmly, Brenda O.

  5. Livre d’Or Says: 
    May 8th, 2013 at 8:34 am

    Thank you, Brenda, for putting yourself on the line to fight this fight. I’m a words person, not a visual art person, so I nitpicked about the words, but I really admire you for getting size positive messages out.

  6. brenda oelbaum Says: Your comment is awaiting moderation. 
    May 14th, 2013 at 4:07 pm

    Thanks Livre d’Or…I have a serious problem with my words lol, I find it much easy to say what I feel in my art. That is why collaborations and movements filled with diverse energies are so important in our efforts. Someone eventually will hit the magic nerve, or just the right blend of word, imagery, or sensory assault, that gets our point across.

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Screw You Weight Watchers

Screw You Weight Watchers.

Thank you Regan!  On an aside … this is my eating disorder therapist’s most loathed program.  I wonder why?

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Its Day 26 of My Indiegogo Campaign

Twitter Jail

This is serious work! Not only was it hard to create the campaign, but it’s hard to make it move.  An online friend and fellow crowd funding person said it was probably less painful and more productive to just get a job at a fast food chain and earn the money that way.  But I had to try it!…it’s the thing to do, I’m learning a lot about social networking, which is cool…It only took two threats, one from Twitter and one from Facebook to get me to fly right.

Can you believe it?  It doesn’t seem possible but yes I was threatened by both websites to have my profiles removed…little old me??? what the heck could I have possibly done wrong?…Evidently it’s not cool to tweet celebrities…unless you are telling them how fabulous they are…I thought that was what Twitter was all about?  You know getting your info into the hands of people who would normally not listen?…well not only are they listening, but they are complaining.  I tried to see who it was that tattled, perhaps gaining clues by finding my profile blocked by someone like Sharon Osborne or something…I did Tweet Chaz Bono too…and today there is an article that he’s lost 60lbs…maybe it was him? Maybe my tweet was messing with his mojo?

Well I don’t have the time or the patience to try to figure out that mystery.  Suffice it to say I pissed someone off! same on Facebook.  Tn that case I was putting peoples email addresses into the search engine on the page trying to find their Facebook pages.  REALLY?? What the heck is wrong with that?  With all the things I have to do, I offered to make a Facebook page for the Detroit Society of Women Painters and Sculptors  (DSWPS), they are great organization…but need a little help getting things into the 21 century.  I know I would certainly attend more meetings if I got a notice of them on Facebook  and trust me their meetings are well attended and fun.  What they need are some young people to join the ranks and the only way that is going to happen is if they have a web presence.

Well I set up two pages one just a info page and one a group page…I invited all the members I knew already but I did not know very many people at all.  So I invited the past president and the current president to be administrators and told them to invite the membership.  Now it’s almost a year later and there are only 30 members who have connected…5 of those are new in the past few days since my wee campaign to friend them all and add them to the page.  Yes and that was what got me warned that I was using the site for inappropriate purposes.  WOW!

Yes I tend to believe I never do anything wrong…but I think in these cases…I didn’t.  It’s all a learning curve I guess, anyways it’s a funny story at parties…My husband as he likes to be referred to in my musings ( no names please ) took great pleasure telling people this weekend on the golf course that his wife is on Twitter and CrackBook for all of 24 hours and manages to get warnings about termination of her accounts.  I’m really “OUT THERE” he says..and he is very “IN THERE!”…and that pretty much sums it up in a nut shell.

Please go Check out my Indiegogo page!…http://bit.ly/dietersunite .  I’m not sure what will happen if I have to get more “OUT THERE” than I already am.

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Before and After: Why Weight-loss Commercials are Dangerous and How Fat Acceptance Saved My Life

Before and After: Why Weight-loss Commercials are Dangerous and How Fat Acceptance Saved My Life.

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Got a message from an Art Blogger today which reminded me I need to update my blog!!

Artist mounts national ad campaign to take down the $66 BILLION Diet Industry. Fight for freedom from self-loathing. DUMP THE DIETS! Http://bit.ly/dietersunite

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